The third chapter of The Book of Ecclesiastes begins with these famous verses:
There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die
a time to plant and a time to uproot
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
Sexual attraction is given to man by his Creator for a particular purpose. In ordinary circumstances, positive effect of that gift is creation the traditional family, a marital bond between a man and a woman. And the family is primarily about spiritual growth of both parents and children.
Same-sex attraction is less frequent manifestation of that gift, purpose of which still hasn’t been officially revealed to man. However, each individual who experience same-sex attraction can seek and receive personal revelation of the purpose of it.
It We Do Our Part…
Sexual attraction in every man is the subject of gradual decrease as he gets older. I believe that’s in accordance to God’s plan that “there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heavens”. If we do our part in fulfilling the purpose of sexual attraction, we will be able to focus on our spouse for fulfillment and random attractions to people outside of our marriage will become less intense and less important. However, if we don’t do our part in creating an environment in which we are able to express our sexual attractions in a healthy way, they may very well persist long after we enter into our old age.
Now, here comes what I consider a possibly controversial idea. I can’t remember where or from whom I’ve heard the following theory, but ever since I’ve heard it, it stuck with me. The theory says that homosexuality aka gayness aka same-sex attraction is predominantly a youth issue. That doesn’t mean those attractions are gradually reverted into heterosexual feelings in the course of time. It only means that that the fiercest and the most dramatic experience of homosexual feelings one encounters from his teenage years up to the thirties. The same is probably true with heterosexual feelings.
At the Time of the Departure
The consequence of the possibility that that is true should not be underestimated. If the main purpose of sexual attraction is creation of family unit in which children can be born, it may be that pursuing homosexual relationship in younger age can easily find us unfulfilled once we get considerably older. And that can be one of the reasons why our church leaders warn us against engaging in such an act. It is very difficult to fully understand from the perspective of a young person how our emotional condition is going to be once we get ever so closer to our departure from this life.
There is no question in my mind that feelings of same-sex attraction are real and undeniable. They heavily color our lives and our behavior. Because they are so real and clear, I cannot imagine that God wouldn’t have a righteous purpose for them, purpose which can be known to and understood by man. I just don’t believe that purpose is to engage in sexually active relationship with the member of the same sex. Instead, I believe that the purpose of same-sex attraction is related to things beyond our young age, something universal and deeply rooted in fundamental principles of the Gospel. Because that purpose hasn’t been publicly revealed by the prophet, I believe each of us has the right and the capability to know that purpose for himself.