I couldn’t sleep early this morning, so I went to the temple (the Jordan River temple opens really early on Tuesdays, 5:00am). It was a really powerful experience. Many things had more impact than they usually do. I was in tears several times. One of the most beautiful and moving things I learned this morning, and it was conveyed to me in a more vivid way than ever before, how perfectly designed and complimented men and women are to each other.

We cannot fully comprehend how much joy and glory we are destined for that can only come when we are united with someone of the opposite gender in the context of the New and Everlasting Covenant of marriage. But I saw a glimpse of that this morning, and it was beautiful!

I say this fully aware and sensitive to the fact that for long period of my life, that hardly seemed possible let alone a joyful destiny. So it is all the more poignant, for someone like me, to appreciate this fact. It did not come naturally to me! Or, should I say, via the natural man.

It also brought to mind the verses in Genesis where God gives Eve to Adam, He says, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” and then later it says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

There is much to say about the part about “one flesh” but I wanted to focus on this term “help meet”.

It actually comes from a tricky-to-translate Hebrew term ezer kenegdo. Let me allow John Eldredge to pick it up from here:

Eve is given to Adam as his ezer kenegdo—or as many translations have it, his “help meet” or “helper.” Doesn’t sound like much, does it? It makes me think of Hamburger Helper. But Robert Alter says this is “a notoriously difficult word to translate.” It means something far more powerful than just “helper”; it means “lifesaver.” The phrase is only used elsewhere of God, when you need him to come through for you desperately. “There is no one like the God of Jeshurun, who rides on the heavens to help you” (Deut. 33:26). Eve is a life giver; she is Adam’s ally. It is to both of them that the charter for adventure is given. It will take both of them to sustain life. And they will both need to fight together.

(Wild at Heart, page 51)

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    I am 2nd counselor in our YW presidency, my lesson today is basically how men and women compliment each other; I ran across this blog entry and it is perfect…thanks so much.
    I have a few YW who struggle with the church’s stand on homosexuality, I was very happy to run across Northernlights and hope to find other entries that will help me help them.
    Thank you