Ben Christensen blogs as Mr. Fob at http://www.fobcave.com .
“What?” you say. “Surely not anyone I know.” But it’s true, folks. Everywhere around us, hiding among the seemingly-normal people we call our friends and family, are straight people . Some of them are even our wives and husbands!
It is, in fact, these particular straight people, those who are married to us gay people, whom I’d like to spotlight here at Northern Lights. We’ve seen several interviews here with married gay men, both young and… ahem… not-so-young, but the people I’d really like to understand better are the lovably crazy folks who marry them, the women and men who have either consciously decided to set up camp for time and all eternity with a gay spouse or who have unconsciously found themselves in such a situation.
What I’d like to do is present here a series of interviews with the straight spouses of gay women and men. What this requires of a specific kind of you is volunteers to be interviewed; I don’t care whether you’re male or female, black or white (but no purples please), married for forty years or forty days, so long as you’re a straight person married to a spouse with same-sex attraction. You can be anonymous or not (we’ll do the interview via email), and I won’t pressure you to answer any questions that you don’t feel comfortable answering. If you’re willing to be interviewed or know someone who is, either comment here with contact info or email me at bgchristensen (at) gmail (dot) com.
What I need from the rest of you is questions. What, in your heart of hearts, have you always wanted to know about straight spouses of gay people? What have you been dying to ask but felt too embarrassed or simply didn’t know anyone well enough to ask? Please post questions here in the comments section or email me at bgchristensen (at) gmail (dot) com.
I will edit the questions for clarity, neutrality, and respectfulness, but I will do my best to include any proposed (and reasonable) questions in the interview.
Thanks much for your help.