Rex

Rex has experienced same-sex attraction all of his life, but has been married successfully and faithfully since 1977. He is the father of five and grandfather of eight. After a 24-year career as a software developer, he went back to school to become a social worker. Currently, he operates in both professions. He is a mentor to developmentally disabled adults, providing community inclusion opportunities, community living skills, assistance with activities of daily living, and behavior consulting. He also develops software. He’s been involved in the internet since about 1990 and has been known as someone who deals with same-sex attraction since about 1997.

 


Posts by Rex

Witnessing Better Things

The Gift of Optimism

I converted from pessimist to optimist one day while sitting in a living room while I listened to two friends sing at a piano. Three years before, I had promised God I would go back to church and give up the way of life I was pursuing. Giving up that life was easy compared to going back to church.
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Still Awaiting the Day

And What I'm Waiting For

I want to follow up on my post, The Long-Awaited Day, now that the National Executive Board of the Boy Scouts of America removed the restriction on openly gay Scout
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The Long-Awaited Day

Or Not

The first thing you should know about my point of view is that I completely believe in the right of any organization to choose their own membership standards.
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What’s So Hard About It

And What's Not

People say I must be depressed and miserable with the choices I’ve made. No. Depressed and miserable is when you have to suffer with something in silence.
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Dried Up

Keeping Silence

I do believe that I am passing through something sacred when my life’s experience remind me of what the Savior suffered for me.
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Peaceable Fruit

Fighting For Every Step

Along with asking why something can’t be easy for a change, I ask myself why I should keep trying to do something that seems to be too hard to do.
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Lasting

And Keys to Everlasting

With faith, forgiveness, commitment, and love, you can get through anything together.
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My Brief Television Career

Lessons Learned

I was a little concerned about my appearance. I was sporting a full beard and was big enough to be worried that the cruel camera would make me look like a behemoth.
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Progenitor

Resisting the Stereotype

As a father of five and grandfather of eight, I marvel at my life and how one brief, but monumental, decision changed a great many things for me.
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How Things Have Changed

Twenty Years Out

In the last twenty years of being “out” I have observed a lot of changes in the world and the Church regarding same-sex attraction. Though I can’t speak a lot to what things were like before that, I think my observations might provide some insight to people who weren’t paying attention to it.
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Wind, Earthquakes, and Fire

Most mornings, I find myself neck-deep in a swimming pool doing low-impact and high cardiovascular exercise. For about an hour, I do this while talking with some friends I’ve made
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I Don’t Trust Straight Men

I’ve learned an interesting thing about myself recently, in the last couple of days, actually. I don’t trust straight men. It’s an old problem, beginning back when I was three
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Imagining Life

A friend posed to me to imagine my life without same-sex attraction. I’ve thought a lot about the question since. I could take it two ways: to imagine my life
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Experience Filters

A few months ago, I posted an entry called, Hungry for Heaven, on one of my blogs. One of the pictures in the piece was this edited photo making it
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One Instant at a Time

When the latest posting schedule for Northern Lights blog came out, I was excited to see that my day, today, fell on my thirty-sixth wedding anniversary. It falls only four
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My Long-Awaited Day

For many years now, I’ve struggled to have some kind of sense of how the people in my ward would feel if they knew that I experience same-sex attraction. It
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Dumpster Diving

During the summer, at my gym, they open the outdoor pool and water park early in the morning. Many mornings, at 5:00AM, you can find me in the morning twilight,
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Success and Failure

I don’t often get the chance to attend my own high priest group meeting. I am in my stake’s Sunday School presidency and most Sundays I am supposed to be
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In Memory

As an American, I have always had a special feeling for those who have served our country in the military. It’s the most patriotic thing I can think of to
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Hair

I know that a lot of men who experience same-sex attraction and are striving to stay faithful to the teachings of the Church relate that have doubts about their masculinity.
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The Tolerance Trap

In the General Conference of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, the general authorities of the Church and other officers speak to us about matters of spirituality and
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