The Trauma of Assertiveness
Assertiveness. The very word brings feelings of anxiety and nervousness to my heart. I am not assertive by nature. Or maybe I am and my nurture just smothered what assertiveness I did have. Anyway, I am starting to get the feeling that this is one of those qualities many of us “strugglers” try to avoid. (I have to say I hate the word “struggler”, but can’t come up with anything else that is so concise.)
Now, some people may look at that observation and say, “You’re probably right. That’s just who they are.” I, on the other hand, take a different view. I think that while our lack of the mystic quality of assertiveness may stem in part from the “struggle” (again, hate it, but it’s so convenient) even more relevant is the way it contributes to the problem.
